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 Birth & Perinatal Debriefs

When you talked about your birth experience in the past, you glossed over the details. Or maybe you shared some of your story, but you felt like nobody truly understood how you felt or how much it impacted you. How much it’s still impacting you.

You don’t want to be someone who had a difficult or traumatic birth experience, because deep down it feels like a failure.

So, you keep pushing through each day. You focus on the fact that you have a healthy baby and that you are both okay. And you are genuinely so grateful for this. But it’s not enough. And you don’t want to say that it’s not enough, but something doesn’t feel right. You are not okay.  And you don’t know how you will ever fully recover from what you went through.

It’s so hard to make sense of what happened. There were parts that were so overwhelming and now there is so much emotion left behind. Guilt, disappointment, grief, sadness, fear, anger, rage, resentment.

Those feelings are all sitting there, just beneath the surface some days. And you worry about how they impact your relationships, your parenting and your sense of self.

You also can’t shake the memories of what happened. Fragments keep coming back. The pain. The fear.  You might have felt dismissed, ignored or deeply vulnerable with nobody to truly hold you or keep you safe.

Sometimes you feel numb and disconnected. And maybe the memories of what you experienced are hazy, but the feelings are not. They are there and they can be intense.

And if you had hoped to have more children, well, the thought of having another baby feels so scary. Because you really don’t want to go through that again. You’re not sure you can go through that again.

Because you feel like the last time broke you and there are parts of you that are still broken.

You may feel this way because of pregnancy loss, a long and difficult fertility journey, a pregnancy that was full of challenges or a postpartum that feels deeply overwhelming.

 

All parts of your story matter and I’m here for it all.

You want to move on, but you feel stuck.


You keep coming back to the birth story and it feels unresolved. You replay details over and over and think that maybe it's your fault that things turned out this way. Maybe you should have done something differently. You feel guilty and like you let yourself and everyone else down. You feel grief and sadness and you can't quite believe that things have turned out this way. You didn't expect everything to go so wrong and for this to be so hard.

You think that you just need to get over it. That this is what birth and motherhood is, and that you just need to keep pushing forward. That time will make you forget.

You think that you just need more sleep. That maybe it's your hormones and you are just being emotional. But maybe it's something more. Maybe this experience has changed and shaped you in ways that you can't even fully make sense of.

You've tried talking to others about your experience but they either don't understand or give you unhelpful advice. Or maybe you just simply don't get the space to feel truly witnessed and seen.

Because how can nobody see how hard that was and how much you struggled?

Hi, I'm Bec.

And I'm here to create a space that finally allows you to be truly seen in motherhood. I'm here for the women who are feeling invisible and like nobody sees how much they carry. 

The women who hold it all together for everyone else, but need somewhere to unpack the things that hold them back and the complex emotions they feel. 

Because I'm a mum too, and I've been there. I get it. This, combined with over a decade of experience, means I have a deep understanding of the things that mums go through.

What will the session be like?

You deserve to have the space to tell your story in the way that you want to tell it, without having to downplay how truly difficult it was. You deserve to be truly seen and witnessed instead of feeling like nobody sees what you went through.

You are so used to holding everything together for everyone else, that it can feel hard let someone else be that person for you.

But I am here for you.

This is the space where you don't need to censor what you say because you are worried about other people’s feelings. It’s the space where you can finally say all of the things that you have been holding in for too long.

When you step into a session with me, you have permission to stop putting on that mask that you wear so well. Because I've worked with hundreds of women just like you and I know exactly how to hold that space that that you can fall apart a little bit. And together we will work out how to put the pieces back together again in way that means you can get more joy out of being a mum.

Going to therapy can feel daunting, and many people put it off because of this.

I want you to know I get it. And as someone who has accessed my own birth debriefing, I know it feels scary. I know that you are worried about being judged and that your trust in healthcare professionals might have been broken in the past. I know that you are worried about being seen as bad mum (you're not).

I know that you might not even know where to start or exactly what you want to talk about. But you don’t need all the answers to come to therapy. You just need to be willing to start the process. And to listen to that voice inside that says something isn’t quite right.

We will go gently, at your pace. At the start of our session we'll talk about important things like confidentiality, your goals for our work together and how I can support you.

We will then unravel the parts of your story that feel important to you. And together we will help you to see them in a new light. To develop a new understanding of your story and to help you let go of what feels unresolved. 

So that you can stop just going through the motions and pushing through. All the while feeling a little bit disconnected because you still have this shadow hanging over you.  

Because it is possible to move forward and heal from your experience. It’s possible to let go of the things that you have been carrying that hold you back and weigh you down. To explore the ways your experiences show up in your relationships with your partner, loved ones and your child.

To create space for a deeper connection to yourself and to find your identity again.

 

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It’s never too late to get your debrief. And you don’t need to keep waiting for things to just get better.

 

FEES

$209 for 90 mins

All sessions are online via secure video call

All birth debriefing sessions include a detailed written summary which will be emailed to you following your appointment.

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Medicare Rebates 

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CANCELLATION POLICY

Please note that 48 hours notice is required for cancellations. Cancellations and rescheduling within 48 hours of your appointment will incur a 50% fee - I thank you for your understanding with this.